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The Time Is Now…Your Dreams Are Waiting

Let’s have a little chat about why you aren’t living to your fullest potential right now.

What is holding you back?

You probably tell yourself that it’s because you are too tired. Or maybe it’s because you have kids and well… kids. Or how about because you must work full time to pay your mortgage. You are too old. Too young. Too fat. Too thin. Too loud. Too shy. Too ugly. Not good enough. Ideas suck. You missed the window. We could be here all night.

I am just gonna say it.

I call bullshit.

You aren’t living your biggest most amazing life because you are afraid.

You are afraid of failing.

Of losing money.

Of being bad at it.

Of making other people uncomfortable.

Of what others would say or think.

Of being too big.

Of being seen too much.

Or maybe all of that shit.

Listen to me.

You are normal.

Your brain is programmed and wired (just like everyone else’s) to hold your ass in the big comfy mediocre life you’ve created for yourself. Your brain & your parents & your teachers & your coaches told you from the age of like 3 that the smart thing to do is go to school, get good grades, find a good job that you can pay into a 401K, and work your way up until you’ve earned Mr. So & So’s respect. You get your 2% raise each year and you have a few weeks of paid time off and a health insurance policy. I get it. I did the same thing. I chased the security of someone else paying me a salary to help get them rich.

I muted my big ass personality and inner essence to fit into a 9-5-dress pants-button up-lap top carrying-long hours-red tape-bureaucratic policies-doing things because “it’s-how-we’ve-always-done-them” work flow.

I did the shutting up because other people on the team didn’t wanna show up to work like I did and would get offended. I didn’t have the title to make changes. I didn’t have the degree to add any extra zeros to my paycheck. I just needed to come in and do my job and be happy with what I had.

And I did. And I was.

Honestly, I did amazing.

I went from making $19,000/year in 2006 to $77,000/year in 2018 when I finally left Corporate America.

$58,000 increase in 12 years. Not bad, right?

I made ALL my managers proud. I worked my ass off. I had amazing ideas. I eventually got the balls to say what needed to be said – and it was (mostly) well received because everyone else in the room was thinking the same shit I was – they just didn’t want to say it.

But, something was missing.

I went to work each day knowing that I was not on the right path. I knew the Universe was pulling me in a different direction trying to show me little signs all over the place. I saw them. I heard them. I dreamt about them. I visualized myself on stage talking to thousands of women about loving themselves, self-development, and happiness.

Man. I saw it all so clearly.

And you know what my brain said to me each time? “Who do you think YOU are!?” Imposter syndrome is what people call it. My brain told me “You have no experience. You are a mess. You have debt. You are too fat. You drink too much. You yell at your kid. You have no college degree. You DROPPED out of college! You have one failed marriage. You have no savings. You are too loud. Girl. No. Go sit down at your desk and get back to your work.”

And, so I did.

Until I just couldn’t any longer. It was like that day in Feb of 2013 when I looked my ex husband in the eyes and said “I cannot do this anymore” and left a 7-year relationship, baby on my hip, clothes in my trunk, no money to my name, & the most peaceful feeling. It felt like I was released from prison. My soul sighed with relief.

I just KNEW I could no longer keep living in my shadow work life. I had to just go for it.

For fucks sake! What was the worst that could happen?! I would figure this shit out.

So here I am. Had a baby. Resigned from my cushy job. Started a business with no idea of how to. Borrowed money from my husband. And just went for it. Am I scared? I was. Now? I am just fucking pumped to finally GET TO IT! The scared feeling creeps back in every once in a while, but with help from my Coach – I just let that voice say what she wants to say, then my Higher Self reminds her that we’ve got this. Big things are coming.

I am here to tell you that we are all here for a purpose. Before you reincarnated here, while you were up in the Cosmos contracting to be here, your Soul said ‘Here is your mission while on Planet Earth.’ You picked your parents. You picked your body. You picked your experiences. You picked every single person you have a relationship with. You set all of this up FOR YOU. For your growth. Your Higher Self knew exactly what you as a Human needed to go through in order to learn the lessons it needs in order to grow and evolve to prepare you for your next adventure after this one.

You are Divine. You are made of the same Divineness that you are created from. You are Godlike. You have so much power within you to create and manifest the exact life that you desire. But no one has ever told you this before.

Your parent’s Egos raised you to believe that this Planet is terrifying. Life is hard. Money is hard. People are mostly bad. Don’t talk to strangers. Find something ‘safe’ and cling to it for dear life.

I believe that God has a sense of humor. We have ALL this amazing power to create and manifest anything we want, and we also get this primitive human brain that is scared SHITLESS. It equates a stern email from your boss to a lion trying to eat your face off. It is TERRIFIED all the fucking time! So, when your Soul whispers “Start the business.” Or “Call the guy.” Or “Ask for the raise.” It FREAKS out. It immediately gives you a list of EVERY reason why you most definitely should NOT do any of those things.

Here’s the thing.

She isn’t mean. She’s not TRYING to hold you back. She thinks she is protecting you. She is wired to keep you safe, seek pleasure, and use the least amount of energy as possible.

Doing something new and unfamiliar is totally opposite of all of that.

But here is the other thing; there’s this other part of your brain called the Prefrontal Cortex that is ALL about doing big, bold, challenging things. This part of your brain wants you to evolve and grow and SHE knows that in order to do that, you must shed the shell you have gotten so used to hiding right now.

This means you have to HEAR your scared brain. You have to feel that fear. Let that shit pulse through your body. Get really familiar with what that fear feels like and LET IT BE THERE.

Stop trying to drink it away.

Stop trying to eat it away.

Stop trying to Netflix it away.

Pay attention to it.

It won’t hurt you.

It won’t kill you.

It is a vibration that just wants you to acknowledge that it’s there. Get quiet. Feel it. Let it pass.

And then… fucking GO. Go as hard as you can towards your dreams. Don’t listen to other people tell you that you can’t or that it’s scary or stupid.

This is YOUR life.

Your Higher Self put this dream inside of YOU to realize and bring it forth.

You are going to feel fear. You are going to spend at least half of your life feeling some shitty feelings.

It is FINE. You are human. You are supposed to!

The sooner you start letting yourself feel those feelings and have your own back – the sooner you will bring your dreams into reality.

The worst thing that can happen from any situation is the feeling you are going to feel.

Once you create the relationship with yourself, the knowing that you can feel ANY feeling and still survive… the possibilities are limitless.

You, beautiful girl, are a MIRACLE.

Do you know how many decisions had to be made to get you here at this exact time, with this exact life?

Please, do not spend the next 30 years rinsing and repeating the same bullshit you’ve been doing just because you think it’s going to be too hard to go for it.

You can do hard things.

You are here to shine.

You are here to thrive.

You are here to serve others.

Put the wine down. Put the chips down. Stop the petty gossiping. Stop putting off your dreams. Stop living small.

I teach women how to fall so deeply in love with themselves that they no longer look to others for approval and validation. They no longer have the capability to put off their dreams. I teach them how to get out of their own way. I teach them how to bet ON themselves. I teach them how to create the most amazing life.

I can teach you. Let’s do this together. I believe in you.

Use my light to find yours. What are you waiting for?

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Is Your Fat Holding You Back From Shining Your Light?

What is your soul calling you to do that you are avoiding because you aren’t skinny ‘enough’?

I believe that we are all on this planet at this exact time for a very specific reason. I believe that our souls picked this time, our bodies, and our parents so that we could have the exact soul experience that we needed to have for our next level of soul growth. We’ve had lifetimes of experiences before, and for whatever reason – your soul, my soul – they felt it fit for us to be here right now with the exact experiences that we’ve had for us to grow into who we are meant to be.

Here’s the thing… most of us forget why we are here and never stop to ask ourselves. We stay asleep and walk around unconscious.

When was the last time you allowed yourself to dream? When was the last time you asked yourself if what you are doing with the majority of your life aligns with your purpose for being here? When was the last time you even asked yourself how much money you want to make or the impact you want to have on the world? (The whole money topic is a blog for another day!)

I am going to guess that you haven’t spent much time thinking about any of that, because sometime after college (or high school for anyone who didn’t go to college) we were told to hurry up, get a job, make money, start paying bills, and stop thinking about what we can do and start believing that what we will do is within about 10% of what we’ve already done.

Here’s another fun layer to that that I have also discovered recently – for those of us who have been fat for most of our lives, we believe that we do not even have the right to dream big because that would require being seen, and no one wants to see a fat girl shining bright; even if no one would ever say that out loud. We begin to build belief systems that we have to not only cover up our bodies, but also our personalities and dreams because we believe that being fat also means we are not worthy of greatness.

We see that the rest of the world doesn’t look like we do – at least not anyone on any stage – figuratively or literally. We see that people are celebrated for their thinness but never their fatness. We see that women are praised when they lose their weight and get in shape, but never when our bodies expand and grow – unless we are pregnant, but even then there is a cap that is considered ‘beautiful’ or acceptable.

So we blend. We mute. We withhold.

We walk into a room of other women and instantly want to find the woman who is bigger than we are so we can feel a little better about ourselves or know who we could possibly be friends with and the thinnest woman so we know who to avoid. We have instant mean girl thoughts even though we hate that about ourselves. We do this unconsciously because the mean girl thought pattern is all we have trained ourselves to think about ourselves. When all you do is talk shit about yourself all day long – those thoughts don’t just shut off and all of a sudden you become a women of abundance and celebration for someone else. When someone genuinely sees the beauty in others, it’s because they first see the beauty in themselves.

How many opportunities have you missed out on because you’ve been so wrapped up in your own head about how to not bring attention to yourself? What about relationships or friendships? Think about all of the people you’ve never gotten to know because you were too afraid to start a conversation because of what you thought they would think of your fatness. Think about all of the money you’ve left on the table because you don’t believe you are worthy enough. Don’t use these answers as another reason to beat the shit out of yourself. I just want you to get honest with yourself. How much of your time is spent holding yourself back because you have a bigger body than someone else? What if it didn’t have to be like that anymore? What if you could show up to your life fully as yourself as big and loud as you wanted to be without ever thinking about how your body should limit what you do?

Your desire to grow and be seen is there. You have tried to smother that part of you for long enough, sis. Your higher self wants to be seen, heard, and loved on. And she needs to be saved by you. No one else can do that work for you. Your spouse can’t tell you that you’re beautiful. Your best friend can’t reassure you of something you don’t believe. You have to cultivate that belief and tend to it like a precious, delicate plant. I will  show you how. Your life depends on it. The growth and expansion of this planet depends on it. There are so many other women in this world who need you to turn on your light so they can find the way to theirs. When you turn your light on, you shine the way for others to do the same. It is time to rise and shine.

My mission on this planet, during this time, is to be a Lightworker. A Lightworker is someone who shines their light so brightly from within so that others see their light and can wake up from the unconscious living they’ve been doing and get connected to their true Divine spirit. I have recently woken up to the fact that I am not here to teach women how to lose weight. I have been through everything that I have, I have felt and thought about myself the way I have, I hit my rock bottom and have cracked open so my light can finally shine through. I rise for you. I rise for her. For all the women who are lost in the dark. Because the light shines through the cracks. I needed to crack open so that MY light can shine through so I can then help others find the way. My body and soul have been calling me home to find true self love for so long. The little girl inside of me has been patiently waiting for me to love her regardless of her human body. And when I lean into that and show up as my biggest brightest self – I light the way for others.

Your weight, waistline, or measurement of your thighs do not determine your worthiness. You have gifts, messages, and lessons to shine into this world. You are perfectly beautiful and whole exactly as you are. You’ve just never given yourself the permission to shine. Even if you have no idea what your purpose is right now – you have one. And the longer you let your weight hold you back from shining your light – the longer you are going to feel that pull of incompleteness. Your soul is ready for you to fall in love with her so she feels safe to shine. The Universe is ready to support you fully into living your biggest brightest self. I am here to help you find your light.

 

If you are ready to learn how – click here and schedule a free consultation and let’s get to work.

 

I love me. I love you. I love us. It’s time to rise.

With all my belief and love,

Liz

Being Happy All of the Time is Bullshit

You have been lied to most of your life. In fact, most of us have.

We were told that the point to life is to figure out what ‘makes us happy’ and to do more / get more of that. But what if the point to life was just to be okay feeling whatever emotion was there in that present moment? What if you could literally stop chasing happiness as if there is a ‘there’ that is better than here.

The reason most of us have turned to food, alcohol, social media, Netflix, or any other instant gratification substance is because 1. we have never been taught how to actually just feel our emotions. and 2. we feel entitled to being able to feel good all of the time.

We believe that the minute we start feeling anything less than ‘good’ – we need to solve it. And because we cannot actually remove a feeling, we end up buffering away or just going unconscious with products or substances that give us a little ‘lift’ in the mood department. But there’s a downside to that. The actual crashing or coming off of that substance. Or when you pull yourself out of Facebook Land and you realize you’ve wasted 2 hours mindlessly scrolling. We go to bed over full, over buzzed, and feeling envious of Susan’s trip to Bora Bora that is in our Insta Stories. Only then to wake up sluggish from our food, foggy from our booze, and still replaying other people’s highlight reels in our minds.

That is the trade off though. You get that instant hit of ‘happy’ but the net consequence is negative. So what’s the solution? Well, based on our behavior… more of the same. Just a little more dessert tonight ‘because we deserve it’, just one more glass of wine ‘because work sucked’, and back to social media because our own family is boring and lifeless.

We believe that those ‘negative’ feelings are literally going to kill us – and the only solution is to eat something, drink something, watch something, or buy something. So we are all at unnatural weights for our bodies, over drinking, living vicariously through the lives in Netflix, and in massive debt.

There’s also the group of us that those negative feelings are so loud – that no matter how much we eat, drink, watch, or scroll – we can’t get relief, so we lash out. We scream at our kids because they haven’t cleaned their room yet, after being told 15 times. Our spouse doesn’t take out the trash, again, so we bite their head off. Our friends don’t behave the way we believe they should, so we gossip about them and hold grudges. All sound familiar? That was my life for the better half of my 32 years.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why we need to solve for feeling bored, sad, mad, or anxious? Why do we need to get rid of those feelings? Because they don’t feel good? But what doesn’t feel good about them? A feeling is a vibration in your body that is created by your thoughts. A simple vibration. It cannot hurt you. It cannot kill you, no matter how much your brain would like you to believe it can. Allowing it to be there and just being present with it literally has no  negative consequence on your life like all of the buffers we turn to do. So what is it? Why are we all blindly running away or reacting to negative emotions.

Read the second sentence of this blog.

We are trying to get rid of it, because we believe we are entitled to feeling good all of the time. We believe that if we are feeling ‘bad’ something has gone wrong. We hear it all the time. ‘Think happy thoughts’, ‘Remove all ‘toxic people’ from your life’, ‘Good vibes only’, ‘If you’re feeling down – it makes others feel uncomfortable’ ‘This pill, patch, cream, DVD, drink, shake, etc will make you feel SO much better and be a better mom… for a low low price of $150/month.’

What if we just believed that as a human we will experience really amazing feelings 50% of the time and not so amazing feelings the other 50% of the time, and nothing has gone wrong? What if I told you that in order to truly know what the ‘good’ feels like – you have to know and understand what the contrast to that feels like? Have you ever asked yourself if there are times when a negative emotion is actually preferred?

Your mom dies.

I guarantee you that ‘joy’ and ‘good vibes’ will not be on the menu for that day. AND. THAT’S. OKAY.

What if you could respect and value what the negative feelings in your life are trying to teach you? Instead of immediately finding a way to escape those feelings – you could learn to just be with them. Imagine how much over eating, over drinking, over social media-ing, or over spending you could remove from your life if you just decided right now to sign up to be present for every single emotion as the human that you are.

What’s the downside? I bet you can’t find one that is worthwhile. Have you realized yet that you cannot out eat, drink, or spend your feelings? They are like toddlers. They simply want you to acknowledge they are there, give them a hug, and eventually they will go play somewhere else. When you ignore them they just get louder and more persistent. That feeling of anxiety you’ve been feeling for the last 3 years – yeah, how’s that Cabernet Sauvignon & cheesecake working for remedying it? Right.

Friends – until you allow your feelings to be there you have no authority over them. Which means you are at their mercy. And like I said above – because you are actively ignoring those toddlers – they are out for vengeance.

I invite you to spend 10 minutes with your negative feeling the next time it comes up. Without eating the Oreo, drinking the wine, buying the new shoes, yelling at your  kids, or scrolling your Newsfeed. Just sit there. Name the emotion you’re feeling. Explain to yourself what it feels like. And watch it figure itself out.

It’s a beautiful thing.

I’d love to hear how it worked for you. Leave a comment below telling me all about it!